Comments on: i’m super, thanks for asking.

By: hubs

hubs — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 05:49:10 +0000

Thanks for the support Ryan. We hope you two make it out here (maybe this time we’ll actually be able to deliver the flash mob instead of an empty street)

By: Amy Rose

Amy Rose — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 04:09:00 +0000

I love you all. It is a relief, yes. And i love how openly you all embrace this concept. I was fairly sure more people would be all WAIT HOW DOES THAT EVEN WORK. But it does. Oh, it does.

By: Ryan

Ryan — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 10:35:24 +0000

Awesome guys

While we didn’t know each other much, I know a lot of what you went through, at least growing up in that suburban wasteland with no support, incentives or even acknowledgment for what you are. I was a big f’ing mess myself for a long time because of it and I can only imagine how much worse it was in the army. The good thing is you will be that much wiser and will have a perspective that not many people have (even if it’s a bit cynical), something I’ve actually been pretty thankful for. Use it to your advantage and remember you don’t owe the world a damn thing regarding what you are…and remember that you’ve got a whole life ahead of you.

PS – Sean has job interviews in San Fran and Sacramento next week and I’ll be on the hunt soon, w00t!

By: Bette

Bette — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 13:39:33 +0000

Yaaay!

I leave the Internet for a few weeks and all kinds of cool stuff happens!

I can only imagine the relief you both are feeling. You are awesome. Not that it’s all about us, but thanks for trusting your readers with the happy news.

By: Kanani

Kanani — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 01:49:46 +0000

Amy hasn’t only been your best friend and wife, she’s been your shepherd along the life path. I’m very glad you’ve come out, and that the two of you have a love that grounds you both.
In the meantime, there is much time and a lot of life out there to enjoy. Continue to bask in and be beacons of love and gratitude for one another and others who cross your path. We are after all, just that. Congratulations on your honesty and friendship.

By: Bottomless

Bottomless — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 08:10:23 +0000

Greatings, Super post, Need to mark it on Digg Bottomless

By: Amy Rose

Amy Rose — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:17:53 +0000

yeah. he's... he's in the closet.

By: Gina

Gina — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:02:17 +0000

It took me way too long to get the ‘r kelly’ tag.

By: hubs

hubs — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 07:25:12 +0000

Granny, I can only attempt to tackle that one.
First and foremost: we are not getting a divorce and we aren’t “opening” our marriage. The simple act of coming out has relieved a lot of the stresses and fears that we’ve experienced over the last couple of months.
And then for my part…
I had my suspicions about my sexuality from as early as 9 years old. Since Amy was a great friend of mine since I was 15, she knew about my struggles. Although I had some “encounters” in my young life, I refused to accept the fact that I was gay. It’s melodramatic to say that I joined the army to cure it, but I did expect to be cured in the long run. And so, over the course of my 5 years in the army, I pretended that I was fixing my sexuality and becoming straight. Under this pretense, I told Amy that the whole gay thing was just a phase that I had gotten over. And then we fell in love and got married.
Right around the time that we moved to Louisiana, I realized that the army hadn’t fixed my sexuality and that I didn’t care anymore. I looked over all the things I had accomplished in the army with pride, and realized that they had nothing to do with my sexuality. Although this was a relief, it raised a lot of questions in my brain. For months my biggest fear was that I needed some “gay phase” before I could truly be happy.
It took a lot of brooding before I finally started talking to Amy about it. We started to experience these fears together, especially as I began to feel a sense of urgency to act out on my impulses.
When we got to San Francisco, we thought it would be best if I saw a psychologist about my situation. Over the course of several months of therapy, I realized that this sense of urgency had less to do with my actual attraction to other men, and more to do with the fact that I’d been suppressing these feelings my whole life. I decided that it was time to come out.
Amy as been absolutely amazing in supporting me through this. If anything this endeavor has strengthened our relationship, and shown me that there is nothing we can’t withstand.

By: GRANNY

GRANNY — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 19:41:19 +0000

Amy; You have my unconditional love and support, in fact, you both do!
You left a lot of unanswered questions out there.
where is this going? How did you both get here? We are all confused(the older generation).

I love you Amy and Alan!